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Big feelings

My fellow parents will probably agree that there can be big feelings about parenting a child who is  transgender.  I love my child but there is a social stigma about having a transgender child.  People may think they are open minded and I certainly thought I was.  I thought I accepted everyone.  However, the journey…

Charlize Theron

Charlize Theron shares how she knew her 3-year-old was Transgender.  “The Oscar winner says of her daughter Jackson: “I thought she was a boy, too.”  Speaking to The Daily Mail about the rumors and confusion surrounding her child, Theron said briskly: “Yes, I thought she was a boy, too.” But then, Jackson corrected her mother.…

Amy Schneider on “Jeapardy”

Amy Schneider just won on Jeopardy.  “I think that the best part for me has been being on TV as my true self, expressing myself and representing the entire community of trans people,” Schneider said. “And just kind of showing a different thing than maybe some people have seen, of just being a smart, confident woman…

Is my child transgender or nonbinary?

When my child told me that she was a girl, I wanted her to know that it was okay.  I listened to what she was telling me and I acted as if I believed her.  However, inside, I had lots of questions.  How do I know that she’s really a girl?  How will my family,…

Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union

I recently watched Dwyane Wade’s candid talk about supporting his transgender daughter.  He and Gabrielle Union are supporting their daughter and are “following her lead” just like the professionals say to do. Some people think that gender is something parents can control.  I say that I can barely get my children to clean up their…

Jamie Lee Curtis and Ruby

I love Jamie Lee Curtis as an actress and, more recently, a children’s book author.  In fact, I have many of her books on my shelves that I love to read to my kids.   When I heard that her daughter came out as transgender, I was happy to see another celebrity creating space for parents…

Transgender children

Before my daughter told me she was a girl, I knew nothing about gender identity. I grew up in a time that no one I knew spoke about sexual orientation or gender identity. I had a gay friend in high school but we never discussed that he was gay.  AIDS was around and no one…

Birth certificate

When a baby is born, the doctor says, “It’s a boy!” or “It’s a girl!” This is called the sex assigned at birth and it is documented on the birth certificate. The doctor has the power to decide on the sex of the baby even though their gender identity is unknown.  Sometimes when the doctor…

Pronouns

I recently read a post by a nonbinary transgender woman who was going for a medical exam that had nothing to do with her being transgender. While checking in, she was misgendered (called by the incorrect pronouns and gender) as a man even though she looked feminine with a dress and makeup. Then, she was…

Legal affirmation

Legal affirmation is when a person’s name and gender are changed legally to who they know themselves to be. This is different from the other affirmations of social, medical and surgical. Legal affirmation is confirmation of the child or adult’s legal reality. This step involves a medical doctor writing a letter on behalf of the…